Do you consider yourself an “understanding” person?

Oxford Dictionary defines “understanding” as


  1. The ability to understand, or comprehension
  2. Sympathetic awareness or tolerance


  1. Sympathetically aware of other people feelings; tolerant and forgiving

Often, I find myself having biases or prejudices in my observations and assessments. Therefore, I constantly remind myself to be an “understanding person in order to comprehend another person’s story.” An understanding person is often portrayed as compassionate as well.

We are called to be a center (a body of Christ) of healing and transformation. We need to be equipped not only to be good listeners but also to be understanding individuals with much wisdom. You might ask, “How can one be trained to be an understanding person?”

First: Matthew 7:5 states “You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
Pray that God will reveal our personal biases that influence our listening. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we shall remove “the speck” from our eyes.

Second: James 3:9-10 states “With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.”
Pray that the Holy Spirit will speak to our hearts and minds before we speak. Always think twice before speaking, and speak slowly and clearly. Very often, misunderstood words bring greater pain and disappointment.

Third: Proverbs 1:7 states “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”
Pray that our wisdom shall derive from the source of wisdom and knowledge instead of worldly opinions. Therefore, consult the Lord through the Holy Spirit by meditating on the Bible daily.

Fourth: Psalm 51:10 states “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
Pray that the Lord will reveal our personal hurts and resolve our pain too. I believe that we can be “wounded healers” for the community.

This list is not exhaustive but will give us a glimpse of what we can start to equip ourselves with, not necessarily during a course but in our daily lives.

Let us do it for the Kingdom’s work.